My husband and I experienced our first miscarriage four years into our marriage. It was a devastating blow for us because we were so eager to have a child. Even though my husband and I had a very close relationship and a good solid marriage, the trauma of losing a child made us feel like strangers.
Thankfully, I had read that, in general, men and women grieve differently, and that it is best not to have any expectations, pass judgment, or hold it against someone who is grieving alongside you, especially when he or she seems to be behaving differently than you would expect. This piece of advice probably saved our marriage. By nature and necessity, we took two separate paths toward healing, and after a time, the paths came closer and converged again once we allowed our grief to run its course.
Whatever the circumstances, grief can be very isolating. No two people grieve exactly alike—no one can truly understand our pain.
The truth is, though, that we are not entirely alone in our grief, even when it feels that way. Jesus, who himself experienced grief at the tomb of his friend Lazarus, is…
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