As I was growing up, my family could have said, with the disciples of John the Baptist whom Paul discovered at Ephesus, “We haven’t even heard that there is a Holy Spirit” (Acts 19:2). But we were spared a total aridity because we knew someone who, without our realizing it, was filtering the Holy Spirit to us. It was Mary. Somehow in this woman we were given some inkling of who or what the Holy Spirit is.
My father had come back from Lourdes at the end of his service in the First World War with a deep devotion to this “lovely lady dressed in blue.” And that devotion was anchored firmly by what happened to his first son, Frank, at the age of two. In my grandparents’ farmhouse, a kettle of water was boiling in the open fireplace when Frank, in an unnoticed moment of curiosity, reached and tipped the kettle over on himself, severely scalding his little leg. So severe was the burn that it demanded a skin graft. One of the ranch hands offered to undergo the operation to provide the skin. But our Aunt Margaret, before putting Frank to bed the night before the operation, sprinkled some Lourdes water on the wound and prayed devoutly that the Lady of Lourdes would intercede for a miracle. The next morning, the skin was so well recovered that no graft was needed. That healing obviously made an impact on our family, especially on my father.
This kind of activation of faith through signs is the work of the Holy Spirit, but often he stays in the background and works through human instruments. Of these, after Jesus, his favorite seems to be Mary. And why not? She was his chosen vessel to achieve the miracle of miracles, the virginal conception and birth, in time, of the Son of God. Often called spouse of the Holy Spirit, Mary embodies the feminine face of God, which is sometimes attributed to the Holy Spirit. I remember taking a walk with a young man in Lithuania whose English was adequate but not perfect. Whenever he would speak of the Spirit, he would use “her” or “she,” because in Lithuanian “spirit” is feminine! It was a refreshing reminder that God is beyond the conceptual metaphors of our language, even when those metaphors are the ones he chose by which to reveal himself!
The Holy Spirit “overshadowed” Mary, enabling her to conceive Jesus. We discussed the metaphor of the cloud in an earlier chapter, so we simply need to recall here that the word is taken from the story of the cloud overshadowing the tabernacle in the desert, a sign of the divine presence. We can conclude that if Jesus is the Word made flesh by the power of the Holy Spirit, Mary is the living tabernacle of the Word, made so in the very same action of the Spirit.
Mary is the Model Responder
Even prior to conceiving Jesus, Mary was moved by the Holy Spirit to give her yes to the mystery, and so she became the model, the prototype of obedient response to God’s plan of salvation for all ages to come. In fact, it is this obedient response, even more than her physical mothering of Jesus, that is heralded in the gospels. For while the divine motherhood is unique, responding to the word is something all are called to do, and fortunately in this we have Mary to learn from. She is blessed twice for her yes, first by Elizabeth, who exclaimed, “Blessed is she who believed that the words spoken to her by the Lord would be fulfilled” (Luke 1:45). And later, when a woman from the crowd cried out, “Blessed is the womb that bore you and the breasts at which you nursed,” Jesus replied, “Rather, blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it” (Luke 11:27-28).
So the Holy Spirit worked in Mary not only the unspeakable mystery of the incarnation, but also gave her the privilege of being the first, the ideal, and the model responder to God’s revealed plan. In other words, she who received the Word of God in her womb also received the word of God in her heart, from where we might learn to receive. Both receptions were the work of the Holy Spirit. Jesus might be rejected by the temple priests and the Pharisees, he might be betrayed by a friend, he might be denied by his own chief disciple and abandoned by the rest to be crucified by the Romans, but he did have one heart that gave a perfect and persevering welcome to him: his mother.
Those who fear that drawing close to Mary will lead them away from Jesus have not understood the entire trinitarian foundation of the Christian faith. To look at the Father is to see the Son. To look at the Son is to see the Father. To look at the Holy Spirit is to be thrown into the mutual embrace of Father and Son. The Trinity is about relationships, about the self that is constituted by the total gift to and from the other. And relationships are what God’s work in time and history is all about, too. To look into Mary’s eyes is to see Jesus, for he is all she cares about. And who better than a mother can teach us to love her Son?
The Cloud may overshadow the sanctuary, but the Cloud also moves on—and so does the sanctuary. Mary will move with the Cloud. Model listener, she heard the entire message, not merely that she was to be mother of the Messiah (who could not have been overwhelmed with that mission?), but also that her cousin Elizabeth was six months pregnant, and that meant that Elizabeth would be in need. The Holy Spirit did not sculpt Mary into a statue to await pilgrimages; rather, he moved her into service, with haste, Luke says (1:39), foreshadowing the mission of the child she carried in her womb, who did not come to be served but to serve (Mark 10:45). At Elizabeth’s door, Mary’s voice of greeting triggered two events: the child in Elizabeth’s womb leaped for joy, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit (Luke 1:41, 44). Oh, if only I could just once hear the voice of Mary, I, too, would be filled with the Holy Spirit; I would leap for joy, and I could not contain my praise.
Neither could Elizabeth. The Holy Spirit moved her to cry out, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb” (Luke 1:42). Through Elizabeth, the Holy Spirit gave future generations the words with which to praise Mary and her Son. Mary responded with her own song of thanksgiving and praise, the Magnificat. Luke does not have to tell us that the Holy Spirit led Mary to do this, for she was already filled with the Holy Spirit. In urgent need, the Spirit will move us to serve. But there is also an urgency to praise in the heart of one touched by the Holy Spirit. That happened at Pentecost, when the Holy Spirit transformed a group of fearful disciples into a community singing a symphony of praise (Acts 2:1-11). But it has already happened to Mary’s extended family in this domestic Pentecost. While during Jesus’ public ministry, we see only him empowered by the Holy Spirit—the disciples must wait (Luke 24:49)—here the Spirit poured himself out lavishly to Mary, to Elizabeth, to Zechariah when he prophesied at the birth of John (1:67), and to Simeon when Jesus was presented in the temple (2:25, 26).
A Domestic Pentecost
There is a great insight here for families. The outpouring of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost was followed by the powerful preaching of Peter and the explosive growth of the church through the missionary activity of the apostles and first disciples. But most fathers and mothers today are not called to the kind of proclamation we see in Acts. Their call and their gift is the domestic Pentecost, the visitation of the Holy Spirit within their own families, first and foremost in the simple types of relationships and services that we see in the extended family of Mary and Joseph. The Holy Spirit wishes to transform families into an earthly reflection of the holy Trinity. Divine bond of love, the Holy Spirit can do for families what is beyond their human powers of loving—bringing heaven to hearth and home.
But Mary is also associated with the Holy Spirit in the ongoing life of the church. Luke goes out of his way to mention that Mary joined the rest of the disciples in the upper room in expectant prayer for the coming of the Holy Spirit (Acts 1:14). Obviously, she who had already received the Holy Spirit would be the best mentor for how to receive the Spirit that Jesus had promised his disciples. In John’s gospel, Jesus promises to send to his disciples “another Paraclete to be with you always, the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot accept, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him because he remains with you and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans. I will come to you” (John 14:16-18). In saying, “I will come to you,” it is unlikely that Jesus was talking about his return to them in the resurrection appearances, because those were only temporary before he returned to his Father. Jesus must have been talking about the coming of the Paraclete, who would take his place. It is the Paraclete who would be the permanent “parent,” assuring the disciples that they had not been orphaned. Jesus had called his disciples “little children” in John 13:33, as he spoke of his imminent departure. But now the “other Paraclete” would take over, not as an adoptive parent but as another way that Jesus would be with his own.
The Paraclete, however, is not visible as Jesus was. How would the spiritual parenting of the Paraclete be visible and tangible? We only have to turn to John 19:25-27 to find one way. Scholars generally agree that the beloved disciple at the foot of the cross stands for all the disciples who would now become Jesus’ brothers and sisters (John 20:17). This is true not only because they have God as their Father but also because they have Mary as their mother. What Jesus said to the beloved disciple he also says to all who believe in him: “Behold your mother” (John 19:27). It is reasonable to think, then, that the union of Mary with the Holy Spirit from the moment of Jesus’ conception has continued beyond the death and resurrection of Jesus: the Holy Spirit’s spiritual parenting of the disciples finds it visible icon in Mary, mother of the disciples.
The word “paraclete” comes from the Greek verb parakaleo. In the Greek text of Isaiah 66:7-13, the word is used to mean “to comfort,” as it describes Jerusalem as a mother who comforts her children and through whom God himself comforts them. “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you. In Jerusalem you will find your comfort” (verse 13). Seen from the New Testament perspective, the church is the new Jerusalem, and so is Mary, who is the church in her role as mother. Viewed in this way, the text can be read as fulfilled in the Holy Spirit, who comforts God’s people through the gift of Mary, their mother.
Father, I deeply long for a new outpouring of your Holy Spirit in my life. Unworthy though I am, because of your love for me I know that you want to give me the Holy Spirit even more than I want to receive him. Jesus, your mother was present at the cross when you “handed over the Spirit.” May she be at my side now as my mother, to show me how to receive this Gift of gifts. Amen.Click here to purchase "Holy Spirit, Make Your Home in Me".